I believe that flirting done well is an art.  The trick is to find the balance between tantalizing and non-threatening, playful and serious, and subtlety and directness.  Yet the true art is not in understanding the parameters, it is in being able to assess the balance required for each situation and each individual.

Flirting, when done well,  is an invitation to mentally engage in the potentiality of something.  It is the opening of a door ever so slightly so that a glimpse can be taken of what is on the other side.  In flirting’s highest form it is a lovely dance that engages intellectual curiosity with a quiet sexuality…it is the creation of a desire that seemingly promises something in the future, but that remains richest in the moment.  When done well, it is not a means to an end, it is a social interaction that stands alone.

Helen Rowland said about flirting, “Why does a man take it for granted that a girl who flirts with him wants him to kiss her – when, nine times out of ten, she only wants him to want to kiss her?”

I have been known to flirt – sometimes innocently and sometimes with a wicked intention.  I am mostly completely harmless…mostly.   I concur with Helen’s statement above, nine times out of ten I flirt quite innocently just for the richness of the moment…nine times out of ten.  It’s the one out of ten times when I mean serious business that have caused me to hone my artistry.  The more important the flirting, the more precise the execution must be – as I said it should be artistry.  So if you ever see me smiling and winking at someone and saying, “I am practicing my art” – you’ll know why. 😉

Day seven hundred and thirty-eight of the new forty – obla di obla da

Ms. C